Loose the Ego NOT the Lesson!

Because of the nature of our physical world, it’s very easy to become enveloped by the drama of our everyday lives.

One of the principal keys to success and ultimate happiness is to become adept at being the “observer” of our life experiences rather than getting caught in the role of “experiencer”(Did I just make up a word there?)

This falls in line with the highly philosophical theory of “ You are the experiencer of experiences”. In other words we are not just our physical bodies, but rather the “awareness” that we have a body through which we experience things, events, people, and places.

Okay enough of the philosophical lore, after all this is the place for Inner Solutions to Outer Problems that are practical right? Okay so how then, do we break this down into simpler terms?

The way I manage to dissolve my problems is to rise above them, look at them from a different angle. I reframe them. I think of myself as both the screenwriter and character in a movie that I call “My Life Story”. If you have ever watched a movie, and I know you have, you will be able to relate to what I am going to explain.

When I am in “character/actor” mode, I become desperate, crazed almost, because I cannot foresee how things are going to turn out, my scope is limited.

As the screenwriter, I know I have given my character some sort of resolution.

Have you ever observed a character in a movie that is in a difficult situation and looses complete focus? Well, it’s no different for us.

When we become consumed by the desperation of our particular situation, our ability to make a decision becomes limited. Our consciousness shrinks and we become more desperate because we cannot easily see our way out of the situation.

In a movie, when the actor calms down, and is able to transcend the fear or desperation that is the moment when the plot turns around and things start to favor him.

When I look at my problem from the screenwriter’s perspective, then I KNOW that there will be resolution in the end, after all I created my character and if I did not feel a love or passion for it, I would not be a screenwriter.

At the very least, even when a character has a “tragic” ending it is the journey that contains the lesson, not so much the end. Remember that movie Pay it Forward ?

For those of you who believe that God, The Source or The Divine Architect as I call it, is the one who ultimately decides your fate, you can ask yourself the following question;

Why would such a power create me, have me suffer for NO REASON AT All and then destroy me? That would make NO SENSE! Or at least it doesn’t to me.

When I frame it up that way I allow myself to embrace the experience and think, this is happening because this is my opportunity to grow into a bigger and better person. I use the experience to propel me forward by turning a disadvantage into an advantage.

It’s not something I made up. The most successful people in the world do it all day, every day! Walt Disney, Oprah Winfrey, Someone you know that is happy, healthy and wealthy.

But that’s the tricky part right? Everyone wants to know the magic formula for turning the minus into a plus. I can tell you its quite simple, but not always so easy. Its one word KNOWING!

This is the ONLY time in your life that I will encourage you to say that you KNOW something , for sure. Knowing can be limiting in most cases but not KNOWING! Notice I capitalized one them because they are NOT the same!

That’s right! KNOWING . When we KNOW that EVERYTHING that is going on is actually preparing us for a “bigger” and “better” experience then that is exactly what happens.

It’s crucial not to loose focus on the fact that we do have very limited perception and often cannot see the “big picture”. When we remember this it’s easier to let go.

The bottom line is you always have a choice!

When you view a situation as horrible and attach fear, anger or resentment to it, it narrows your field of vision and consciousness. The answers seem impossible to find.

When you reframe, let go and KNOW that answer is right under your nose. THAT is exactly what happens and the problem dissolves in no time.

Lesson: When you get caught up in your problems, you loose the lesson. When you use the lesson as an opportunity for growth you let go of the EGO.

Weekly affirmation: I am willing to stand back and view my challenges as opportunities for growth. I therefore choose to loose the EGO but not the lesson!

All the Best!

Aymee